If I hear "Well I stay home with my kids but in my free time I..." one more time from another woman, I am going to BARF.
How did this happen? How did we did to a place where women forgot just how CAPABLE they are? I see this in both my businesses and even more socially - when I ask a question about a woman's career, dreams, or goals, she SHRUGS and acts like they are inconsequential. Like they aren't a big deal to her, or that they are DREAMS for a reason so she shouldn't get her hopes up.
I am mostly pissed because I am guilty of this and have even done it socially when I talk about my business like it's some hobby that didn't literally retire me from a career in 18 months. It's not small. It's not a joke. It's not a hobby. It's a business. I am not "playing" while my kids nap, I'm leading a team of entrepreneurs that turn 6 figures in revenue annually. Is it because we think it's impolite to brag? Or that maybe the other person doesn't see the value in your business? You don't have to brag to be confident. If someone asks you what you do, proudly say "I RUN THIS MOTHER" and don't even question it. Because here is the thing, sister. If you say "I'm home with the kids but I do XYZ in my free time" then they'll treat you with the same respect you just gave yourself. Hobby-level, "oh that's cute," respect.
You have your dreams and goals for a reason, and it's not to be a dangling carrot you'll never be able to reach! It's to push you to GET THERE - to REALIZE your potential. I am not a religious person so I'm not even going to tell you "If God put it on your heart then it must be there for a reason." I am going to tell you that if you can't stop thinking about it, and if you REALLY FREAKING WANT IT - it was MEANT FOR YOU. Does that mean it will show up on your doorstep in 9 months from the dream stork? NO. It means you will need to dig deep and DO THE WORK and persist until you achieve it. The first step is admitting you're capable of it, and the second step is committing to making it happen. The third is pulling up your big girl panties and doing the work. And when people ask you about it, you proudly proclaim it.
FINALLY, as a woman that IS home with her children during they day and fits both her businesses into the 12 hours they are not awake (and let's be real honest, some of the hours they ARE awake, too) it is not something to be embarrassed about. Let me be very clear, my hardest, most demanding job is mothering. It is a damn contact sport and it requires more patience than any one person has. If you are a parent that raises your children, please be proud that you are singlehandedly SHAPING PEOPLE INTO THE ADULTS THEY WILL BECOME.
What I NEED for you to do is to know that your work is important. What you're doing is valuable. But if you don't BELIEVE your work is worthy and valuable, no one else will either. It all starts with you. And you're worthy of every dream you're hanging onto. The sooner you realize that, the quicker it will happen